Creating Space for ourselves and others

Inspired by the Super Soul Sunday episode with Rob and Kirsten Bell speaking about the ZimZum of love in a marriage.  The part that they did not really speak about is this concept works for all relationships: friendships, family members, co-workers etc. 

We are all humans on this earth. We have things we go through because those are opportunities for us to grow. We are busy with obstacles and other things that we forget to first create space for ourselves. Creating that space is essential to life. This concept is very simple but is  not talked about as often as it should. Children need to know this as well. We can create the space we need to accept ourselves as we are in the moment. You can CHOOSE to do this right now. To accept that we are often hard on ourselves and we do not need to be. When we create space for ourselves, we are able to interact better with others. As a result our relationships improve. 

I know this concept to be true.I had to start with myself, my awareness. I myself have had relationships where there was not any space. When I initiated the space, I began to accept myself as I am. I then was able to accept the other person as they are. The surprising thing is that they were able to accept me as I am. I never thought this would have happened in the past. Together we are able to have a whole, respectful, and peaceful relationship. 

I want to leave you with you have the power to 

Have healthy relationships, starting with you.

change your relationships.

change the way you think and respond to situations

Power to love unconditionally

Change what does not serve you

#SuperSoulSunday #ZIMZUM #Love #Relationships

If you would like to know more how to have healthy relationships starting with yourself, feel free to send me a message. 

"The dress" debate has a lot to teach us about ourselves

It is really amazing how a simple picture has so much to teach us as individuals living in this world. It is amazing how one person seeking an opinion of  others has the world talking about it. A picture of "the dress" has been included here to show you.

Everyone is talking about what color the dress is. Everyone is absolutely sure it is...(colors). As a whole they are not open to other ideas or possibilities, and it has a world torn apart.  We become "stoppers" not only to ourselves but also to others because there is an insistent that the person with the "opinion is right. Science has included their facts about why this dress is viewed differently by others. They are saying, we see how both sides are correct. The colors of the dress are illusory

We are able to see past science and take that to a deeper level of understanding for others. This is simply an example of how divided we are but we can change that. We have the ability to come together and say "I understand that you see the situation as... and I can see how you would view things that way." Instead of "this situation is clearly..."

As we go through life we don't question what our eyes see and our eyes interpret. Much of what we are seeing is illusory. Because this is what should be a "simple answer" has turned out not to be so simple. We question it because there is such a large division in what people are saying.

In closing, be aware that others see things differently than you do, and that is Ok. Secondly be aware of your illusions because they can effect your life to a greater degree than the color a dress in a photo.

#thedressdebate
#blackandblue
#goldand white
#illusions
#opinions

You are Gifted

What would you do if you had no limitations place upon you?
Where would you go?
What would you do?
What would your life look like?
These are not passing questions, they are questions to seriously ponder and plan out in detail. 

For each of us, the answers to the questions are as unique as we are; as unique as our gifts. They are questions that need answering in as much detail as one would plan a wedding. You are planning for the rest of your life! You are planning in details because that is what we has humans truly strive for. We want a life that has purpose and meaning. We want to help others. The general feelings that we feel when we are using our gifts is the same. We feel freedom beyond words, it is expressed in all that we say and do! Freedom in all areas of life is the destination. We get there by sharing our unique gifts. When you have arrived, you just know, this is the place. You spend the rest of your life in that space. 

Every morning we all have the ability to improve upon our strengths. We can open our gifts that only we have. It is very possible to live your life like a child on Christmas morning, opening their gifts, the abundance, enthusiasm, gratitude, love and the new things that we have acquired in the process. Your living space is a mess in the process, however, you do not mind because of what the outcome is and feels like and the journey to that moment was so worth it!  

How to "Kill them with Kindness"

Today, the term "kill them with kindness" comes to mind. I have a twist on that. It may help you with your situation.
I have someone whom I allow in my life because I do not have the courage to ask them to leave. I feel attachment to them, I am aware and I take responsibility for my choices. For the past year, this person has been trying to convince me about a certain idea. I have come to realize all that we all are looking for is validation. Validation that our own reality is how things are. I kindly agreed with this person that their reality is correct. After that, there was nothing else to discuss. They were validated and have left on their own accord. The space had been created for each person to be who they are. It is like Magic!! We both received what we wanted from the situation.

If you have someone in your life, a co-worker, a family member, a stranger who is trying to convince you of something. You have tried other things to get this person to stop bringing up a certain topic. It is an unconscious cycle. Try these steps.

1. Genuinely agree. (It must be genuine or it does not work.) Say I agree, I understand. If they continue, just keep agreeing. You are not adding fuel to the fire, you are smothering it.
2. Watch the results, be very observant and aware of the person, you, the situation, they may give you a clue as to your next steps.
3. Really take note of this because it applies to all situations. It is a way to gently end the cycles.

I hope you have found value with a way to "kill them with kindness". If you have any experiences to share, please share them below. If you would like to learn more about what I do, let me know. Have a beautiful day!

Introduction to my Never Stop Improving Blog.

I wanted to create this blog because life should Never Stop Improving.
I am brand new to blogging, this is my way of "getting out there". I have a lot to offer the world. Each blog will be different, as I am different from day to day and moment to moment. I am human, I am perfectly imperfect and I am sure you can understand that.

About Never Stop Improving
As a student of personal development, I have learned that we are constantly growing and evolving into our truest self and we are on this journey to assist each other. We have been and experienced that others have not and visa versa. Life is truly best when we study, learn and apply many concepts to our lives. I want to share with you what I am learning as I am learning. We can grow and learn together. My life's mission was has always been to help people live the life they have always dreamed about. A life of freedom whatever that looks like for them personally.

Today I came across a quote from Simple Abundance that reminds me of the personal development journey. We can read and read from others such as Tony Robbins and Jim Rohn. We feel inspired in the moment but we never get out and live the principals they teach. This comes from childhood when we are encouraged to read and read. Very rarely was I ever encouraged to be adventurous in my own life. We have adventures in our minds through other people but we never get out there and put to use what they are saying. We never get out there and have adventures of our own. It is when we get out and have a day of adventure that we feel most alive, that we feel ready to begin again with the world.

 I went para-sailing with my best friend on one of our adventures. The experience is priceless. The scenery above, the ocean, the coral reefs, the blue skies. The safety we felt while up in the sky so very high. I am not a fan of heights at any level. The experience was breath taking in every aspect. It is not something that can be explained fully to understand. It is something that you must experience for yourself to truly understand. It is an experience best served with a friend because we all are on a journey together called life.

If you would like to learn more about what I do or how I can help you personally, just let me know.